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Reflecting on Another Year of Growth - Using Birthdays for Self-Evaluation AND Celebration

Updated: Aug 7, 2023


Today, as I celebrate another year around the sun, I want to share a personal tradition that has become incredibly valuable to me: using my birthday as a time for reflection, evaluation, and planning for the future.


While birthdays do indeed encompass the joy of receiving warm wishes and indulging in cake (I must admit, I looove cakes 😻 ), they signify much more. They mark the completion of another chapter in our lives and the beginning of a new one. It's a great opportunity to pause, look back on our journey, and consider the path ahead.



"Let them eat cake." - Often attributed to Marie Antoinette, this quote captures the indulgent delight of enjoying a delicious cake, emphasizing the simple pleasure of savoring a sweet treat.

Reviewing the Past Year

Taking a moment to review the past year is like flipping through the pages of a book we've written. What accomplishments did I achieve? What challenges did I face and overcome? What lessons did I learn? These questions allow me to celebrate my victories and acknowledge my growth, all while being honest about the areas that still need attention.

Embracing the Good and the Not-So-Good

Life is a mix of highs and lows, successes and failures, moments of joy and moments of struggle. Using my birthday as a checkpoint lets me recognize both the positives and the areas that need improvement. It's essential to acknowledge that growth isn't always linear, and setbacks are just stepping stones toward greater achievements.

Setting Intentions for the Future

As the sun sets on one year, I take the opportunity to set intentions for the year ahead. What do I want to achieve? How do I want to grow? What goals align with my values and aspirations? By asking these questions, I create a roadmap that guides my actions and decisions in the coming months.

Checking In with My Well-being

Birthdays are an ideal occasion to check in with our overall well-being. How am I feeling mentally, emotionally, and physically? Am I taking care of myself? Am I nurturing my relationships? Am I living in alignment with what truly matters to me? These questions help me ensure that I'm leading a balanced and fulfilling life.

Reflecting on the past year and planning for the year ahead can be a meaningful way to celebrate a birthday. Here are some coaching questions to help guide this introspective process:

Reflection on the Old Year:

  1. What are some of the most significant accomplishments and milestones I achieved in the past year?

  2. What challenges or obstacles did I face, and how did I overcome them?

  3. What did I learn about myself through these challenges and accomplishments?

  4. Which moments brought me the most joy and fulfillment in the past year?

  5. Were there any goals or intentions I set at my last birthday that I were able to achieve? If not, what prevented me from doing so?

  6. Who were the people that played a positive role in my life during the past year, and how did they impact me?

  7. What habits or routines did I develop that contributed to my growth and well-being?

  8. Is there anything from the past year that I feel proud of and want to carry forward into the next year?


Looking Ahead to the New Year:

  1. What are my most important aspirations and goals for the upcoming year?

  2. How can I build on my successes from the past year to propel myself forward?

  3. What new skills, knowledge, or experiences do I want to acquire in the next year?

  4. Are there any habits or behaviors I want to let go of in order to create a better version of myself in the coming year?

  5. What steps can I take to prioritize self-care and well-being in the midst of my goals and responsibilities?

  6. What relationships do I want to nurture or cultivate in the next year?

  7. How do I envision my ideal day-to-day routine that aligns with my goals and values?

  8. What support or resources will I need to accomplish my goals, and how can I seek or create them?

  9. What fears or doubts do I have about the upcoming year, and how can I work through them?

  10. What's my overall theme or guiding intention for the new year?

  11. How do I want to feel and what impact do I want to make?


Remember, your birthday is a testament to your existence and a unique opportunity to celebrate all that you are.

Embrace Self-Reflection and Celebration on Your Birthday!

Your birthday isn't just a mark on the calendar; it's a special occasion that's uniquely yours.✨


While it's true that birthdays provide a wonderful chance for self-reflection and introspection, they also offer a golden opportunity to celebrate yourself and bask in the joy of the moment. Self-reflection allows us to look back on the journey we've traversed, acknowledging our accomplishments, growth, and the lessons we've learned along the way. 🌱

However, amidst the contemplation, it's equally vital to cherish the present moment.


Your birthday is a day to revel in the love, laughter, and well-wishes that come pouring in from friends and family. It's about indulging in the things that bring you happiness – whether it's enjoying your favorite meal, engaging in your hobbies, or simply spending time with loved ones.


Remember, celebrating yourself isn't about boasting or being self-centered. It's about acknowledging your worth, your uniqueness, and the positive impact you've had on the lives of those around you. By embracing the celebration, you're not only honoring your individuality but also sharing your happiness with others.

So, as your special day approaches, embrace the duality of self-reflection and celebration. Take the time to look within, appreciate your journey, and set intentions for the future. But don't forget to wear that radiant smile, soak in the warmth of affection, and relish every moment that this day has to offer.


Here's to embracing your past, enjoying your present, and eagerly anticipating the future! HAPPY BIRTHDAY 💛🎈




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