Let's delve into the complex world of romantic relationships. Have you noticed recurring patterns in your relationships? Lets explore the roots of our romantic patterns. For me, understanding these patterns meant looking back at my childhood. I grew up with a father whose approval I felt I had to earn and a mother whose unconditional love provided a haven of safety and unwavering support. Many of us, often unknowingly, mirror the unhealthy dynamics from our childhood in our

A Journey of Self-Discovery at Burning Man

It’s a word we hear often, but do we truly understand its power in shaping our lives and careers? Growth and Change As I reflect on my own journey and those of countless professionals I've encountered, I’ve come to realize that courage isn't just a virtue - it's a necessity for growth and change. Consider those moments when we find ourselves stuck in situations, be it a job, a partnership, or a certain mindset, where deep down, we know we're no longer happy. We feel the urge

Stop reacting and start responding: The difference between reacting and responding: - Why do we react - Why we should avoid to react - A short window of opportunity - How to create space between stimulus and response

Today, I want to share a story about stress, but not from a human perspective. Instead, I found it intriguing to observe the reaction of a four-legged friend, Ringo, when the smoke detector in the house went off. As humans, the high-pitched sound of a smoke detector can be uncomfortable for us, but for dogs like Ringo, it's an entirely different experience. When the detector went off, Ringo reacted with sheer panic. He started shaking uncontrollably, and there was no way to c

So scary - those were the moments when I felt like I was losing myself..

I'd like to introduce a concept that has proven to be a valuable tool in my work with clients – Constructive Distraction. It's a strategy that, when employed mindfully and purposefully, can have a profound impact on self-care and personal growth. Let's explore how Constructive Distraction can help you find solace in moments of distress. The State of Overwhelm We've all been there, haven't we? Those moments when life feels like a relentless storm, and we find ourselves caught

-Why we don't feel our feelings - Why it is important to feel our feelings - How we feel our feelings - Sharing a personal story

Since moving to Canada, my life has been an incredible journey of exploration and self-discovery. I've had the privilege of calling several provinces of this vast and beautiful country home - Quebec, Ontario, Alberta, and most recently, British Columbia. Back in Austria, my life was a picture of stability. I had my own apartment, my job, my family and a close circle of friends. But since my childhood, Canada has captivated me with its breathtaking landscapes and diverse cultu

I wanted to share a valuable lesson that's been on my mind lately the incredible importance of PAUSING. I've noticed in myself, and perhaps you can relate, that we often have this tendency to rush through life, trying to check off our to-do lists as quickly as possible. I've also observed this in many of my clients. I've come to realize that hitting the pause button is a game-changer. When life gets stressful and things don't go according to plan, my initial reaction used t

Creating Space Between Stimulus and Response In life, we encounter a multitude of events and situations that have the potential to stress us or trigger emotional reactions. Someone may say something hurtful to you that you feel is very unfair. Your initial reaction may be to defend yourself or become defensive. Emotions can run high in heated arguments, and impulsive words can make things worse. Or you feel overwhelmed by work and come home frustrated. You notice your partner

Let's talk about agitation. You know, that feeling when you're all wound up, like a spring about to pop? I've been thinking about how we experience agitation in our lives. For me, it's like a buzzing under my skin, a restlessness that's hard to shake. How do YOU experience agitation? Describe it in your own words. And most importantly, how long does it take for you to even notice that you're feeling agitated? When you do realize it's there, do you sometimes find yourself feel

Life has a funny way of throwing curveballs our way, and sometimes those curveballs can feel more like obstacles than opportunities. I believe that within every negative situation lies the potential for transformation and growth. It's incredible how a simple shift in perspective can turn things around. Instead of dwelling on setbacks, I've learned to view them as stepping stones to something greater. The most significant transformations often happen when we step outside of ou

From an early age, I carried within me an innate calling to care for those around me. It was as if I had a pair of antennae tuned to the emotions of others. An ability to recognize when someone was unwell, or when something was wrong. This deep-rooted desire to care and support for others did not diminish throughout my life. As a child, I felt naturally drawn to care for other children and even adults around me. Little did I know that these early experiences would lay the fou

▶ Why do we often find ourselves passing judgment on others? It's fascinating to observe that the people who are most critical of others are often their own harshest critics. In many cases, we engage in judgment as a means to boost our own self-esteem, compensating for a lack of self-acceptance and self-love. Imagine for a moment if we could wholeheartedly embrace ourselves, flaws and all. Would we still feel the need to be so critical of those around us? Chances are, we woul

Even if you don't want to admit it, but most of us are afraid of judgment and therefore we are afraid to show our true, authentic selves. The fear of being judged silently influencing our decisions and keeping us from showing the real us. Why are we so afraid of being judged? Because deep down we are afraid of the possibility of not being enough, of feeling different, of not belonging, and ultimately of being rejected. We long to be part of something greater; we long to belon

Understanding the stages of change can help us navigate this journey with greater clarity and self-awareness. Whether it's breaking a habit, starting a new chapter, or setting boundaries in our relationships, recognizing where we are in this process can be a powerful tool for personal growth. How to change - the stages of change 1. Precontemplation : In this initial stage, we may not even be aware that change is necessary. We might be in a state of denial, rationalizing behav

I enjoy and need my solitude! If I don't have it, I lose the connection. I lose the connection to myself and therefore I lose the connection to the people around me. When I lose connection, I feel not grounded, not centered, not able to be fully present with myself and everything around me. Sometimes I'm not even aware that I've lost connection with myself until I realize that I'm nervous, anxious, and impatient,... when I'm less able to deal with things around me. Then it's

👉 Daily Stories from Everyday Life The Neighbors Clothesline Ravaged serious angry faces: husband and wife. She avoided the neighbors, speaking only her language to her adult children. He nodded a greeting when passed by. Yet their patio had beautiful green plants, and carefully, neatly, hung men’s clothing; shirts and pants with socks to dry. Flowers outside their door and a handcrafted cathouse to keep stray cats warm.  A loud argument. Her voice held so much anger.  Sad s

Embracing bravery is not about the absence of fear, but rather about acknowledging your fears and choosing to move forward despite them. Your curiosity becomes the guiding light that illuminates the path ahead, encouraging you to step out of your comfort zone. When your curiosity is stronger than your fear, you open yourself up to new experiences, opportunities, and growth. It's that spark of interest that pushes you to ask questions, to explore the unknown, and to challenge